Starting therapy is a meaningful decision, and finding the right therapist matters. A strong therapeutic relationship is one of the most reliable predictors of positive outcomes, which makes it worth asking thoughtful questions before you begin.
Most therapists, including me, offer a free consultation call for exactly this purpose. This is your opportunity to get a sense of their approach, experience, and whether you feel comfortable working together.
Below are some of the most important questions to consider.
Questions to Ask a Therapist Before You Commit
About Their Training and Approach
These questions help you understand how a therapist works and whether their approach aligns with what you’re looking for.
What modalities or approaches do you use, and why?
How have you been trained in those approaches, and how recently?
Do you have specific training in trauma, and what does that look like?
How do you decide which approach to use with a particular client?
What does a typical session look like with you?
About Fit and Identity
These questions help you assess whether you’ll feel understood, respected, and comfortable in the therapeutic relationship.
Do you have experience working with clients who share my background or identity?
Is your practice affirming of LGBTQ+ clients? Neurodivergent clients?
How do you handle cultural differences or experiences you may not share?
What happens if I feel like therapy isn’t going well? Can I talk to you about that?
About the Process
These questions clarify what therapy will look like over time and how progress is evaluated.
How long do you typically work with clients?
How will we know if therapy is working?
What do you recommend if I’m in crisis between sessions?
How often will we meet, and is there flexibility in scheduling?
About Logistics
These questions help you understand the practical details so there are no surprises once you begin.
What is your fee, and do you offer a sliding scale?
Do you provide superbills for out-of-network reimbursement?
What is your cancellation policy?
Do you offer telehealth, and is it effective for what I’m dealing with?
You’re Allowed to Ask Questions
There are no wrong questions to ask a therapist. A good therapist will welcome your curiosity and answer directly, including being honest about their limitations or what they don’t specialize in.
If a therapist seems dismissive or defensive during a consultation, that’s useful information about fit. You deserve to feel informed, respected, and comfortable before committing to work with someone.